lady is a complete package. You cannot paste femininity on, it must
come forth from within and influence all that you are; all that you
wear, say and do; its evidence will be seen in your conversation; in
your life as a whole. There is no magic pill: no perfect hairstyle,
outfit, spouse, no best friend that will make you a lady in the
fullest sense.Think of being a lady as the sum of the parts. Yes,
clothing matters, but so does attitude. Yes, neatness in appearance
(beauty and health) matters, but so do internal motivations. Yes,
tone of voice matters, but so does submission of spirit.
gives us the framework. We get to utilize our personalities with this
framework. Don't be afraid to stretch beyond your fears to become who
God has made you to be. We are uptight, trying to fit our squareness
into round holes. Stop. Breathe. Stretch. Walk closely with Christ.
Let Him stretch you within
the beautiful confines of womanhood, ladyhood, femininity. Learn from
Him the art delicacy and strength as you've never known and in a way
that no man can understand. Everything that you do can be done
gracefully. It's in the turn of a wrist, a tilt of the head, a
calmness of expression, a relaxing of the shoulders. It's in the way
you carry yourself.
your feet? See your hands?Touch the hair upon your head. Gifts. All
precious gifts to be used rightly. Look at that body type you've been
given. It is a covering for your glorious organs within that are
functioning properly. When did you last thank God for these things?
Praise Him for it right now and from this moment on. Your entire
being is a miracle. Disdain any part of this and you disdain the
Creator who custom made you for your life. Remove all negative
thoughts at the gateway of your mind and instead focus on pleasing
Him in all you think, do and say, in how you dress, walk, and touch
the lives around you. Reset your thoughts every morning. Don't keep
looking out towards others to find you. Look up and look in. Breathe.
Get ready to really live as you live as the woman you were truly
meant to be.
been meditating lately on what makes a good photograph. By the way,
meditation is a good thing. Learn to think deeply. Give your brain
time to process what it is taking in. You can't do that if you are
“connected” to devices for the majority of your day, flitting
from one juicy bit of info to another, intoxicated on the sweet
nectar of knowing who did what with whom and when. Reminds me of the
double-minded man verses, and the, “ye cannot serve God and mammon
verses, and the, “Think on theses things”verses. Hmmm, seems
like some of us have chosen the thralldom (voluntary slavery) of
popular culture and have willingly disconnected ourselves from the
still small voice of God and that's very sad.
what makes a good photograph? Three things, according to me:
distracting clothing or background.
connection of the subject to the one viewing the photograph or to
another person within the photograph.
talk about these as I feel they are deeply connected, in an oddly
perfect way, to that of being a lady.
simple lines. Notice in this artwork entitled, “Elegante,” how a
few lines can create a complete image. Precisely! There are very few,
and very basic observations that are made in the life of another that
actually define the whole person. Simple lines in the life of a true
lady can be found in her non-cluttered life. Her speech, her dress,
her room, her home, her goals, all follow a simple and direct
trajectory determined by her choice to please God first and not have
her mind on the opinion of others.
this beautiful image of a vase and flowers. This image fits well in
our talk about being a lady. I see a continum of grace and
proportions as should be seen throughout every aspect of the life of
a lady. Just as someone created this arrangement, choosing the color
of flower, the texture of the vase, and the canvas of the wall behind
it, we are to live deliberately, speak deliberately, act
deliberately. What we say is what we mean and what we will do. Our
lives need not be complicated.Nothing of great value and worth
happens by accident, it takes work. Likewise it is with a beautiful
picture, it very rarely is an accident. There is so much effort,
thought, study, practice that goes into the creation of a work of
art. Friend, we are to love God supremely and we are to love and
therefore deal with others and we would have them deal with us. This
is the work of a lifetime. If we are to marry, we are to be a keeper
of the home with which we are blessed. That will be our focus. Love
God. Love others. Care for those things that God has given you
charge. To be successful in this requires deliberate focus,
attention, and sacrifice.
no distractions in clothing or background. First, clothing. In a
portrait, a boldly patterned top is a poor choice. So is wearing a
color that isn't right for your skin tone. Also, a lack of material
to cover one's self is a distraction from the actual person, the soul
in the photograph. So goes our life as a lady. Clothing has a
purpose and it can be used to distraction or to attraction to the
actual soul within the clothing. We make not only clothing choices,
but many other choices daily. This can be likened to having no
distractions in our present life as a lady. Choose wisely throughout
this day knowing that the minor will greatly affect the major. Daily
choices alter the place you land a year from now. Little leaks sink
far as background goes, a distracting background could refer to our
moral choices, our past. You know, today you are creating your “past”
and you are totally in control of that. Even if something devastating
were to happen to
you, you can still be in total control of your reactions and your
attitude towards the event that God Himself allowed. In photography,
a good artist will watch the color palette of the entire scene. In
great images, the background blends seemlessly with the subject,
likewise the pose matches the person. God is working the
circumstances in our lives together to seemlessly blend all for our
good and for His glory. Put your train car on the track of true
womanhood and you'll be surprised how much easier it is to get to
where you are supposed to be. We have so much to do with the final
image of our life.
true connection. This one fascinates me as a photographer. It is what
I'm after every time I shoot. In order to get this from my subject I
must first gain their trust. I must allow them to feel safe with me
so that they can allow their true self to come forth. You see it in
their eyes, their smile and in their body language.
The best way I
can do that is to become honestly interested in them as a person, to
smile genuinely at them as I listen to them, and to show
vulnerability as a human being.
a lady, true connection to the eternal souls around me can only take
place as honesty and vulnerability rise to the surface of my life. I
must lay down my pride and my sense of competition. You do realize
that it's not a competition between any of us, right? You will wake
up one day and realize that so and so was not the standard, nor was
she all that you thought she was. You will realize the standard is
Christ and that you are in a race against yourself on a very unique
course that He has set for you.
ballerina. This is a beautiful image. Do you know how hard it is to
look graceful while performing under great physical strain? This
takes great effort, great discipline. Welcome, ladies, to the
strength of a woman: Self-control, a fine-tuned body, simple
coverings, purpose, determination, and strength. Obtaining a life of
simple lines, no distractions and true connection will take great
effort on your part. Great effort. But if you will let it be the
crowning purpose of your life, to live life as a true lady, it will
become the crowning achievement of your life, affecting all those
that surround you and that will follow after you.
note and set out to learn of the silent influence of a woman. I
quote, “Cruelty she despises, and it lessens at her bidding; purtiy
she admires and it grows in her presence...” From the same ancient
book, “This influence is due not exclusively to the fascination of
her charms, but to the strength, uniformity, and consistency of her
virtues, maintained under so many sacrifices and with so much
fortitude and heroism. Without these endowments and qualifications,
external attractions are nothing; but with them, their power is
irresistible.” (Golden Gems of Life)
is not a one size fits all, set in stone, cookie cutter pattern that
you can memorize and put on and take off according to your
circumstances or depending on the company you keep. I can not show
you the one true image of Feminine; I can only describe its qualities
and when you find someone displaying these qualities, though the
people don't always look the same, you will know a true lady when you
see one because these qualities appear in every facet of her life.
And her presence in your life will always call you up to a higher
it really does matter that your skirt is pressed, that you hold that
door open for someone, that you smile at your parents, and thank
them. That you move gently through the house, and keep your areas
neat. That you not only seek to be good, but to do good. The details
matter as it is the little things that make up the whole. Tucked in
amongst the gross sins in Romans 1 are the culturally acceptable
sins, even within the church, of “disobedient to parents” and
“unthankful”. These things ought not so to be. Young ladies,
when did you last thank your mom for her care for you? A true lady
lives in a constant state of gratitude. How often do you roll your
eyes, outwardly or inwardly, as your parents speak to you? A true
lady shows respect at all times. Symptoms, my friends, symptoms of a
greater and uglier issue. Disobedience and unthankfulness allowed in
the child, or within your own life, breeds a contempt for authority
and will, if left unchecked, feed the selfish nature and lead to an
isolation from God.
sweet one sitting here, you may have learned to dress like a lady,
but you may not be acting like one. You cannot have the glory of the
title without having earned it. The outward appearance crumbles
without a true foundation. Victory and glory comes after a battle.
The battle is one of ideas that begins in the mind and must have its
foundations based squarely on God's eternal word. Being a lady is the
sum of the parts. All of you must be in harmony with the feminine
calling on your life. This is who you are! Don't shame the office of
woman. It is a high and holy calling to be the one positioned as
Keeper of the Home.
To be the one to bear children and to nourish
them physically, mentally and spiritually. And to do it all
gracefully with great purpose and determination. You will not get up
one day and discover that you have become a lady, you must get up
every day striving to live up to the honorable title.
is concerned with your heart, your soul, the fabric of what makes
you. Your femininity is a generalized and transparent cloak that
hangs on this magnificent infrastructure called You. By creating you
as a woman He has given you a beautiful framework in which to
accomplish your task. All of this today is to help to you be the best
version of you! You have a God. You are a girl. So, this means two
things are settled: you know from Whom you are to seek direction
(God), and you know how you are to walk your unique path (like a
looks a bit different on each of us. There are Biblical standards
set, such as: having a behavior as becometh holiness, not a false
accuser, one that teaches good things, sober, discreet, loves others,
chaste, and good, etc. Great respect is given to a true lady. How you
carry yourself backs up your speech, your dress, your outward
display, or else it eliminates any credibility you may seem to have.
Your words will carry so much more weight when backed by a fiercely
feminine life. Humans are designed this way. How much more effective
could we be to this world if our grace-filled souls were living in
harmony with a grace-filled life; our walk, talk, mannerisms, tone of
voice, gentleness of touch, sweetness of spirit, all fulfilling God's
plan of woman.
putting on a beautiful, elegant dress makes you feel beautiful and
elegant, so too, the cloak of femininity covers and infiltrates every
aspect of your life creating a beautiful world where others will long
to dwell; where you are queen and keeper.
(Author's note: photographs #1-8, 11 and 12 we taken from the internet. The rest were taken by the author.)